These principles will help you avoid The 14 Dating Traps:
1. Marketing Trap
Trying to attract a partner by making yourself more appealing, believing you have to sell yourself because nobody would want you as you really are.
2. Packaging Trap
The opposite of the Marketing Trap. Instead of seeking to sell yourself with attractive packaging, you focus on the packaging of others; such as age, body type, weight, income, etc.
3. Scarcity Trap
Believing there is a limited supply of possible partners so you have to take what you can get or be alone.
4. Compatibility Trap
Believing if you’re having fun with someone and getting along well, then your compatible and a committed relationship will work.
5. Fairytale Trap
This is passively expecting your ideal partner to magically appear so you can live happily ever after without effort on your part. Believing finding your soul mate will just “happen.”
6. Date-to-Mate Trap
Becoming an instant couple with everybody you date, as if you’re giving the relationship a test drive. Assuming that becoming a couple and trying out the relationship a successful committed relationship will happen.
7. Attraction Trap
Making your choices based solely on feelings of attraction. You interpret a strong attraction to someone as a sign this relationship is a good choice and is meant to be.
8. Love Trap
Interpreting infatuation, attraction, need, good sex, or emotional attachment as love.
9. Sex Trap
Prioritizing physical intimacy and regarding everything else as optional. Your main criterion for a relationship is sexual attraction and physical compatibility. You become a couple as soon as you have sex.
10. Rescue Trap
Hoping a relationship will solve your emotional and financial problems, and bring you happiness and fulfillment; like winning the lottery.
11. Co-dependent Trap
You expect someone will love you and give you what you want by giving the other person what they want. You try to earn love and happiness by acquiescing, nurturing, giving, and helping. Needing to be needed often results in unconsciously attracting and choosing a relationship with a person who needs you, but is unable to give you what you want. You really want to be in a relationship. You feel unworthy as you are, and you need to earn love. You pursue relationships because you feel incomplete when you’re not in one.
12. Entitlement Trap
Believing you deserve to be happy and to get what you want in your life without effort or changes on your part, because your entitled. Your attitude toward your partner is, “What can you do for me?” “Make me feel good.” “Make me happy.”
13. Virtual Reality Trap
Believe “what you see is what you get” and seeing what you want to see, instead of using actual experience and knowledge to make long-term relationship choices.
14. Lone Ranger Trap
You are focused on your goal of finding your life partner and believe the other relationships in your life are less important and you don’t need anyone’s help. You evaluate the people you meet for their relationship potential and don’t take the opportunity to cultivate new friends. Then, you feel isolated and believe there’s a scarcity of potential partners.
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